✦ Develop a relationship before sex. No relationship = no sex. The most meaningful sex comes from (within) relationships. Not before. Remember, you can’t hurry love either. Take your time.

✦ Like romantic walks, evening sunsets and late night talks, sex is a gift for the two of you. It is not the “end all, make all, we’ve got to keep having more and more ...” No, in fact, when you do have sex, don’t have sex for just a little a while, right after! Wait until you both naturally grow hungry for each other again? Just because your refrigerator is filled to the rim with food and drink doesn’t mean you have to eat it all in one night. That’s ridiculous. The same goes with sex. Just because it’s there, doesn’t mean you have to taste test it every night. Wow, talk about a fast track to boredom.

Remember the old sales adage, “Always leave your customers’ wanting more, never leave them fully satisfied ... (so they’ll keep coming back for more and more and more year after year after year for the rest of their lives!)” So, there you have it ... keep yourself and your honey “always wanting more, never leave yourselves fully satisfied (in a sense) always hungry for the next time!”

✦ Have you ever heard your honey say something like this before? “You’re not interested in me anymore? I’ve lost my sex appeal? I want more romance. You don’t make love to me anymore.” Men, this is a call for help. Her self-confidence, her self-image (and her connection to you) is crumbling and you’re the only one who can really save her.

Perhaps, a few years have passed and one or both of you have gotten a little out of shape. (That can be fixed.) Perhaps, a routine of sleeping together for years and years has drowned your appetite for the fresh flesh ’n’ loving skin of your honey during times of her arousal. (This can be remedied.) Maybe, you have desires (or she does) that neither of you have “communicated” to each other! (Well? Do that! Communicate!) Maybe you are experiencing a time in your life where you’re more stressed out than ever before, concerned about your appearance, look, or your performance and you just can’t seem to bring yourself to loving her like you used to. (Again, this can all be remedied.)

No matter what the cause is here, what you must do in this very desperate situation is to act now and act fast. Do not let your woman sleep another night (alone in her heart) wondering, “Does he still love me? Will we ever get back to the love we had for each other when we first met? Why is he not attracted to me anymore? I’m so alone in my heart, like never before! I’m married/dating/engaged to the man of my dreams, yet I feel so alone even when I sleep next to him. Who can help me? I know of no one! Why doesn’t he talk to me about my feelings?”

Sir, you can help her. Here’s what to do ... For starters, do you love this woman, still? Have you started a family with her? Do you have children? Does she want children? Does she want to marry you? Have you been dating for years and (you have) not proposed to her, yet? Then, for her sake and the sake of your future (and possible family) and the commitment, dreams and ideas you have placed in her head and in her heart ... If you still love her (and you’re thinking 10, 20 years down the road) and you want to stay with her, there’s only one thing you need to do FIRST!

Simply, you need to pledge to her that you “will” work on this very desperate “heart-saving” situation until it is overcome satisfactorily to her and then to you. She needs to know you still care about her and can provide her the affection and touch you once provided her when you first met her.

Oh, there it is! The secret to solving this very emotional dilemma! “When you first met her!” Simply, and actually ironical as it sounds, YOU need to distance yourself from her immediately and for just a little while. You need a time-out! Time enough to break the routine of familiarity you’re both in. Time to step back, and from a distance, really look at what you’ve got! You know the old saying, “You don’t know what you’ve got ’til it’s gone.” Well, this couldn’t me any further from the truth. You desperately need to “experience” the feeling of (really) losing her ... Then, and only then, will you say to yourself (at night, sleeping alone) ... “Gosh, what have I done? Why haven’t I been there? I was once? I don’t want to lose her. Can’t I/we be again? I want to get back to the ‘old times’ too. Yes, I know we can! I (the man) have that power to bring us back together. I’m not going to lose her ... (Honey? I’m coming home, I’m yours and you’ll never have to live another day without me!)”

Now, isn’t it interesting. Like working a job, 365 days a year, if you don’t get time off (like a 2 week vacation once a year, which still isn’t enough) you’ll probably wind up jumping out a (first floor) window from the stress and pressures and monotony built up inside from doing the same thing over and over and over again. Eh? No one can really stick to something day in, day out for years without taking some kind of break. Sure, you could go on a trip together, but truthfully, you both need to get away ... from each other – so you can “miss each other!” People need time and space to reflect and really view what they’ve got in a relationship ... You’ve heard the old saying, “Absence makes the heart grow fonder!” Well, it’s true. How many times have you longed to see family you haven’t seen in years, but when you stay too long, wow, look out! Yeah, well, the same may be somewhat true with your honey.

I know you’ll see and find her attractive all over again if you’ll position yourself away from her (for a little while) and to the point where you really do start missing her, and a lot! What if you both took time off (to miss each other) only to find ... “Gosh honey, I’ve been apart from you and I’m really missing you ... You’re all that I can see. You really mean the world to me! I can’t stand losing you for another minute. Please, will you take me back? (And, she will!) What do you want to do? Where do you want to go? I’ll take you anywhere because I really love you. I’m never going to let you go, because in my heart I know you belong to me and I belong to you!”

✦ The secret to a long lasting and fulfilling relationship is understanding the other person in the relationship and helping them to understand you: your emotions, your desires, your quirks, idiosyncrasies, your strengths, your weaknesses, your faults and your perks. “Well, that’s just her way, and I love her for it!”

✦ While physical/sexual love can weaken as you get older, friendships grow stronger and stronger, which is why it’s very important to bond with someone you can truly be “best friends” with, someone you can share your life with ... forever.